The Dad Factor (Part 2)
(Top 6 How To Tips To Raising Happy High Achieving Children)
Welcome back to part 2. I can’t wait to share this blog entry with you! The last one was a lot to digest so I broke it up. Since then a lot has happened that I would like to write about, but I will save that for later this week. Now on to steps 4-6!
4. Love: Believe it or not children seek their father’s love often times more that they do their mother’s love. Why? Well, in many cases a father’s love is not as readily available as a mother’s love appears to be. So when a dad does express his love to their child it is often enough to go for weeks and months. Your job as a dad is to show them love at random times throughout the day. This allows your discipline to be received as something not attached to your level of love for them.)
When we dads walk past our children and just hug them for no reason or pat them on the head or wrestle with them for a second or two out of the blue, it feeds their souls for days. Now imagine if you do it a little every day. Actually stop imagining and start doing it. Happy high achieving kids have stern but loving dads who randomly love them every day.
Image: That look is the look of love and funny dad that comes out almost every day in their family I’m sure. He (Loving funny dad) is often accompanied by accountability dad. You know the one that says… “I know that you don’t want to go to the tennis court today, but we have goals and I am here to hold you accountable. So get up Naomi and let’s go. We have a number 1 in the world tennis ranking to reach.”
5. Respect: This kind of goes with the accountability part, but it really deserves its own section so here we go. Respect is key. I see so many dads allowing their kids to talk to them in any old kinda way. As my mom used to say.
“I am not your friend! I am your parent. If you talk to me again like you do your friends we are going to have problems.” – Katie Horne
She only had to say it once. Not because I was afraid, but because I didn’t want to disappoint her. I love my mom and your kid loves you. Insist on their respect. As dads we have a lot of the respect tools built in. They are there for a reason. They are supposed to be used to help and guide our children. That is actually your job. That is why you have the dad tools and not the mom tools.
- Booming Fear Of God Voice (Check – USE IT)
- Broad Shoulders and Physique (Check – USE IT)
- Furrowed Brow Of Fear. (Check- USE IT)
You must insist on respect! It is step number 5 of raising a happy high achieving child. RESPECT Find out what it means to me. To me it means a high achieving happy child. #Letsgo
6. Get Out Of The Way: When you have done the work you don’t have to guide during performance time. GET THE F OUT OF THE WAY! I see so many dads freaking out at sports events, performance events, and academic events. DON’T DO THAT! The freaking out is supposed to happen before the event. The freaking out happens while you are doing the work.
The big test, the big performance, and the big game are too late. Whenever I see them freaking out at one of these things I often quietly think to myself.
“Ahh… There he is. Dad who didn’t read this article.” – Troy Horne
Glad that I had a chance to share this blog entry with you. I hope that it helps you!