Yes… It Is Your Fault! (And Why That’s OK)

Written by on December 10, 2015

As a child one of  the worst thing that you could ever hear would be…


The problem is that many of us are just 7 year olds walking around in adult bodies. We were never given, what I call “The Adult Transition  or Right of Passage” ceremony or event. Many traditions used to have this transition period as a part of a child’s transition into adult hood. Some people, religions, and cultures still celebrate this transition but for the most part it has been dulled down to be more “acceptable” or in some cases even commercially viable. The idea of that founded the transition is , in many cases, barely visible in the new adaptation.

All of this to say many of us never learn how to transition from #childing to #adulting so we walk around still trying to avoid fault or blame. My friends no matter what you have been led to believe you are responsible for EVERY aspect of your life. If you are an adult living on your own, paying your own bills and sustaining your own life, you are responsible for everything that is now a part of your life experience.

Where you currently are and all that you are currently experiencing is YOUR FAULT! (Good and Bad)

The first step is to accept that it is your fault. 

It may not be pretty and it will not be easy, but the first step is the most important and that step is admitting and accepting that EVERYTHING that you are now experiencing in your life is your fault. Once you do this you are ready to move to the second and most rewarding step of the two.

The second step is understanding that…
if you created it you can uncreate it!

As an adult you have created the circumstances that you enjoy and the circumstances that you don’t. Your active work should now be about uncreating any of the things in your life that you no longer want to experience. I would caution you to take them one at a time. I often like to start with the smallest and work my way up. Small victories make it easier to win the large victories. Plus it establishes a memory of recent success as opposed to a memory of recent failures. Give it a shot. Pick a small battle or situation that you can change today and let me know how it went.

I will respond with one of my best congratulations emails! You can reach me @ info (at) troyhorne (dot) com.

So…Yes it is your fault, but you now know that you can do something about it, and that makes it OK.

Love you all,



  1. Lorraine   On   February 7, 2017 at 1:58 am

    Sure…Of course, coming up with an elegant formal chrzicteaaration of “degrees of consciousness” is one thing … and coming up with a measure that can actually be used in reality, given the types of data available about real systems, is another (probably harder) thing …I’ve been working on a novel formal definition of general intelligence (a tweak of one created by Shane Legg and Marcus Hutter recently) and I think one can make a formal definition of consciousness that is related to this…So, stay tuned 😉

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